Pt 3--Follow up

Some follow up to below.

I'm now much more calm about everything. Yeah I was genuinely pissed last night. But, as always, gimme 24 hours to think it through and I'll be good.

Don't get me wrong, I'm still pissed about what happened, but I can deal with it now. It's not gonna make me bitter.

I told a couple of people about it and the reactions were on the opposite ends of the spectrum. The reason I bring it up is because it fascinates me how their distinct personalities reflected in their opinions.

I gave them both abbreviated versions of what happened.

G is a J.A.P. in every sense of the word (sans being asian). Very much a Princess and has no problem with that label. I made her feel shallow one day because I asked about her clothes. Everything she wore was designer and expensive. She got over the shallow feeling quickly.

Her reaction was quite simple. She thought it was funny, felt bad for me, and said "At least you're finding out now and not down the road after you've wasted a lot of time on her."

K is Asian (sans being a J.A.P.). She has some serious self-esteem issues. This is a woman, who 6 weeks ago talked things over with her live-in boyfriend, and they mutually decided it was time to move on from each other. He still hasn't moved out and she won't kick him out.

Her reaction was quite complex. She thought I should give her the benefit of the doubt. To not be so hard on her...give her a 2nd chance. Maybe she really was sick. Maybe she signed on for a moment and then went back to bed without turning off her AOL.

See the comparison?

Here's what I drew from both...it's about RESPECT.

G would not take that crap from any boy. Disrespect her once, and you're done.

K will allow you to walk all over her time and again without ever standing up for herself.



I was hesitant to delete my no-show's number from my cel. She might call to offer an apology.

I was hesitant to delete her off my buddy list, because once I calmed down, I might be willing to give her one more try.

I was hesitant to delete her messages to me on MySpace for the same reason.

This morning, before I had even talked with G or K, I deleted her out of my life.

After talking with G & K, I'm glad I did.

I deserve RESPECT. End of story.

B